Our third son is gay. I always knew he was different from his brothers but it was a huge shock when he told us when he was nineteen. The way we have come to terms with it, is if that God made him as we have been taught, God must love him, so we can also carry on loving him.
He didn’t want to be gay and tried to have girl friends before he came out and acknowledged his situation. Unfortunately he found no help from his Church and finds their attitude to homosexuals extremely hurtful. He has been rejected and we all know how that feels. Thankfully he has sorted this out for himself, and had a very loving, caring relationship with a very nice fellow, for seventeen years. We were all very sorry and distressed when this came to an end and delighted that they are still good friends.
Spending a holiday at the home of an Anglican priest recently, he was told, he “was a great loss to the church”!
At a meeting with other boys thinking of becoming priests, he was very disillusioned by some of their attitudes of hiding their homosexuality in the priesthood!
We give thanks that we still love him dearly and that he is a well balanced loving and caring man.
The following is my letter to the then head of the Canadian catholic bishops and the second is my bishop’s reply to the copy I sent him as a courtesy.
I have a dear friend who is a lesbian. She was extremely involved in our church (secretary, song writer for Formation classes,etc.). She has a partner who she married a couple of years ago. They had been together for 35 years – longer than a lot of marriages! She has never felt welcomed by a Catholic Church. So now she is a member of Unity church.
I am also very disappointed in comments made by our Archbishop. Our language and acceptance needs to change.